Does your job search feel like a big weight on your shoulders? Are you confused about what you should do next? Do you have starts and stops in your search activities? Are you beating yourself up because you havent done enough? Okay, first things first. Conducting a job search can be overwhelming under the best of circumstances. Add to that a full time job, kids and/or other pressing responsibilities, and it gets even trickier. And the higher you are on the food chain, the longer it takes to find your next position. On top of all those pressures, are you making things worse by what youre telling yourself? Clients beat themselves up because they dont feel up to the task. Theres too much information and they dont know where to start, so they do little and then give up. Or they berate themselves because they havent done enough. Time for a reality check! Here are some tips to keep it real: Set realistic standards and expectations. If you have locked-in time commitments (full-time job, kids, etc.), you need to be extra careful in planning your activities. Set weekly goals that you can comfortably meet. Under-promise and then, if you do more, youll be happy with your progress. Learn to wait gracefully. Do you want it all now? Ahhh, if only. . . Deal with your impatience! The older I get, the more I realize the importance of being patient. Nothing happens overnight. All those folks who made it big spent years building, waiting and never giving up. Allow your career plan the time it needs to unfold. Have a plan. Before you take step one, what are your career goals? A new job? Positioning yourself for promotion? Whats your timetable? I cant stress enough the importance of a written plan. That way youll see the steps you need to take, can check off your accomplishments, and keep track of your progress. Remember to celebrate your wins. Dont put the cart before the horse. Can you compellingly and succinctly describe what you want? Dont expect people (recruiters, your networking contacts, friends, etc.) to connect the dots. Until you can easily articulate the kind of job you want and what youd like to be doing, networking will be a wasted opportunity. Write a resume only after you are clear about your job goals. I get calls from prospective clients saying, I need a new resume. After a few minutes of conversation, they admit theyre unsure of their next career move. They expect a new resume to replace the pre-work they havent done. Your resume should reflect your carefully thought out career objective. Find a committed listener and have them hold you accountable. You will accomplish more and feel better if you have a trusted friend to talk to on a consistent basis. This person can be a sounding board and can give you support when you hit a speed bump. We spend our lives trying to reach our goals. Yet, the time we actually spend reveling in our achievement is minimal. Arent you always thinking about the next thing you want? By accepting that your job search is a process that happens over time, you give yourself permission to relax and enjoy whats in front of you today. |
