So you love your partner to an alarmingly amorous degree and wonder if your smothering may be putting a damper on the whole healthy relationship quotient. You should start by asking yourself whether you consider your behavior to be beneficial to your partnership. Be brave: Ask your partner if they need a little space and don't take offense if they do. Being in a relationship doesn't mean that you have to do everything together, make sure to have your own friends and hobbies outside of the relationship. Always make time for yourself to avoid losing your identity in a relationship. Set aside one day of the month to actively spend time solely with yourself, either spend that day at a spa or take in a dinner and movie. You should also spend one evening a week of quality time with your family or friends. Try not to blur the lines between attachment and possessiveness. It's completely unhealthy to believe that you own someone and can control what they do or who they spend time with. If you find yourself counting the seconds until your love comes home or check in on him/her a gazillion times a day through e-mail or by phone, then yeah, you might be too attached. If you can't bear to be without your partner then you may want to analyze your feelings about trust and abandonment. Discuss those feelings candidly with your partner so they can understand where you're coming from and give you the reassurance you need. |
